It brought so many thoughts in me when someone I know dies. Noah Jackson was only 26 years and that he now no longer with us is so terribly tragic. A so nice and kind guy and a really fun comic with its own style that really stood out. When I look in my giglista I see that we have ståuppat simultaneously on four occasions in the past year, but I think we have run at each other further at some point. And so we went out and ate burgers once when none of us would occur until the second act. So when I say that I felt Noah then it was only narrowly true.
When I came into the comedy world a year ago, I became fast friends with a lot of comics, particularly those occurring on the rookie clubs. You put as a matter of course to each other on Facebook and you can meet and often separated by a comradely hug. They talk a little just before the gig and maybe sometimes you samåker to any gigs outside Stockholm. It is almost a necessity to be friends with as many as possible, because networking is so important in the standup world. You need to have instant contact for gigs and it has no network you stand largely outside of the opportunities that crop up very often changed. In order to even be able to reach anywhere needed not just iron will, sacrifice of time and at least an ounce of talent, but also networking. But Buddy Partnership is also a safety net. It is an incredibly vulnerable position to be stand-up comedian, not only the requirement to maintain an audience alone, but also be able to stand up after a failed gig, and without my comedian friends I had not done it. So even if I do not really know my friends, I'm addicted to them. It may seem from a very superficial acquaintance - I know almost nothing of my comedian friends beyond the joke. But while we are close to each other, for we share the dreams and the burning interest. And we hold each other.
Noah's death got me thinking. It's so incredibly easy to push friendship in the future. I do not know if just Noah and I had become close friends outside the rookie clubs. Maybe not, we were probably quite different. That we will never know. But there is a long list of friends - both in the comics world and elsewhere - that I would like to spend time with a little more because I feel it could be a good friendship. But I push on it. To say nothing of old friends that I ever forsake. I have so many projects going on all the time and make this a priority - and put my confirmation needs first. When I hang out with friends in life is almost always beneficial emphasized, with a clear goal or as part of a project. It was not so before, but I have increasingly fallen into that behavior. I sometimes manage to convince myself the pleasure of hanging out aimlessly, and I am so happy every time I do it. It is so liberating. And it's so soothing to my brain that otherwise are constantly booming.
I have in many ways become a person with fewer friends. I can see how it is myself that has caused this, I take almost no initiative yourself anymore on that front. I really suck at socializing just to socialize. Both I and my wife Christina is pretty anti-social in their free time, we remain very much for ourselves. We are not good at inviting people, and we get so very often calls home to others. It is obviously something we can do about it, yet we do not.
Personally, I think Facebook and Twitter to some degree from a timing point has come to replace other intercourse. And I just love the digital interaction. But I'm beginning to increasingly realize how much I miss the physical meeting with friends. I am about to lose an important part of myself - a part that requires the presence of friends to work. As a two-part adhesives with just bass and no hardener. I can no longer postpone it.
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Recognizes that. Make yourself the same. I think it's that it's easy to become "a child of its time." To embrace the interaction models that exist. And social media has given us a true and fragmented model of contemporary small. We persuade ourselves that we have a good handle on what our friends do, when the opposite is the case that the deep call to both stalled. Without us, being able to free ourselves from the feeling that I should have ....
Should we break the pattern. How about take your wife and get over to a TP-evening ahead. After Christmas, when the needles are swept away and calm encamped again.
So amazing well written, truth, honesty, reflection and self-distance ... Yes you Mattias, Stand-Up world seems cruelly hard. I hope it ends with tragedy now. Noah would LIVE: ¨ (.. he was so nice. Hugs to you!
Mats: TP-night sound great fun! We also bought a game the other week called Retro which is fun. And a little consciously, it is a game where you must be at least three people ...
Agnetha: Standup World is simultaneously warm and soft. But the stake is high - the self-esteem can get a hefty blow.
Very well written, believe that many will recognize themselves in it you wheel recommendation .... I'm one of them.
I recognize myself, Mattias! I forgot how to get along without the benefit highlighted in some way. My mother and grandmother were the same: they wrote, for example, books with their friends or Boyfriends. It is both good and bad. At home we took care of her in her room, but not intercourse together (except at mealtimes, which flourished in storytelling). We did not even have a proper sofa to gather in. Your thoughts here evoke in me. Spending time with no particular goal, not to forget how good (damn now I became utilitarian again) it is. Play games together, for example, inconceivable in my life, it's not producing! Nah, this is also about to change! Will try to learn to play the game. Or be making at least. Julpyssla example, a bunch :-)
Johanna
Roberto: Thank you! Interesting that so many people recognize themselves in what I write about. It is thought so easy to be alone in their thoughts.
Johanna: Oh, where to a leisure activity is not productive - I have become more and more that way. It is the hell. But still, I can spend hours on end at Facebook, as I interpret it as productive as some sort of marketing on my own. And it's really awful that I only think so.