In a Facebook discussion the other day I wrote a bit about why I always look positively at things and rarely stops to take life very seriously. I just drive on.
It was pretty fun to formulate these thoughts to myself. I suddenly became clear on some things that were my own person. Very much of course depends on upbringing and things like that are a little difficult to compromise on now that I have completed the 39th But I thought some of the factors that I actually have myself. Here are my Facebook reflections (in easy editing):
I divide my life into small, short-term projects. It is seldom I look forward more than the maximum six months. I do not put my goals further away than that, either. It makes all the time that I meet most of my goals in life. And so, I always have several parallel goals - if it does not work on it one way so I get to be successful on another front instead: the book industry, social media, Sherlock Holmes or something else. Everything depends on the occasions that appears when I move me forward in life. I seize the chances of escape. Am I just present and responsive in different contexts so apparent in these chances.
For me it is not so important exactly which area I should make a success, but it gives me satisfaction and confirmation. It means that I often ponder over life. There simply is not much to worry about, rather it is about solving problems in my small project and it is usually just exhilarating. All these jobs I give myself - and that leads to that coveted confirmation - that I do not have time to take life so seriously. There is too much joy in the moment.
If I had been more politically aggregate or more interested in the major social issues, I would have probably seen it as small projects and also worked with parallel goals. Although I always do things the more selfish reasons (for confirmation), it is my hope that the good performance from me leads to good effect on others.
Now I have no children, so I find it hard to put myself in the situation of parents. Possibly changing the lives of everyone acting very much. But I would probably try some sort of project thinking and parallel cases there too. (Well, I can have it as a utopia after all.)
The thing is well also that I probably mentally is not so very adult. I simply do not understand what to do when you take life seriously. The professional role and in many other roles works I understood anyway, but purely personal, I'm probably not as responsible as you might want to be when you are my age.
Summary: short-term projects and parallel goals is what always drives me forward.
Yes, it was my reflection in that Facebook discussion. Does anyone recognize themselves - or not at all?
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I recognize myself to be project-driven and targeted. I do not feel good unless I have a project to run. Long does it by working on the newspaper - every number was a new project. But now I've gone over to the heavier stuff (run book publisher and the rest my first book in the harbor in the fall).
Perhaps it would be great if I had several projects at once while you ... I would probably think it was fun, but on the other hand, I have three children, and they're three projects per se, so I will probably not take on me much!
Interestingly, in all cases to read your mind, and you're probably right in that you do not have a lot of brooding about it all the time have something that makes you happy in the moment.
Pia: Thanks for your thoughts! I do not think it was physically have to interpret it so that I have several parallel projects (even if I'm in and of itself, it has). Rather it is the goals that are parallel. By having multiple paths / goals so I can always jump to the path that is most feasible for the moment. Since the common goal is to feel good, so it does not matter which path I choose. I'm currently working example hard on social media-track to reach some sort of milestone there, but then maybe I will skip to bokbranschdebatterandet because it opens up opportunities to get ahead there, or something happens on the Stockholm-by-turn -front as I can work with. The previous courses, I can always jump back to - and then it is never to take a step back, but it is often with more confidence that I play on the thing again. I can develop in such as bokbranschfronten by keeping up with social media for a while, but I really do not depend on the book industry to do. As each new project gives me new lessons I can apply it to my other interests.
I agree with you that it is good to have short-term goals, and I see the wisdom in having several parallel. While I can curse myself sometimes because I do not go in to 100 percent in one thing, but always have something on the side of, little bit like that, which I think has stopped me from achieving some success. Sometimes I think that one eg 'll give one thing 100 percent for some time, to see what happens, but something in your back pocket if it turns out that it does not reach all the way, but that's me.
But you should never lose a child at heart. For what on earth does it mean to grow up? Does that mean that you should be boring? Do you have to buy walking shoes, and stop having nitbälte? Volvo and the dog and the whole ballet ... I need to talk about politics and overtime hours when you meet someone and it is "ugly" to go on an adventure film in the cinema? No, I have sworn with Pippi Longstocking, I never want to become Sture, and I hope to sit in until I die.
Unlike you, I believe, however, that one should have a long-term goal, parallel to the short. It can be about the same subject, and even, or a combination of several short, eg I would like to get my book published and I would like to give out a flat where I play bass. Long term, I would like to live the artistic work. First, of course, happen before the others could be possible in that case. I always see myself as I do, and then I happen to have a side project that is currently giving me an income to survive on.
One crazy thing I like is that you can be satisfied and happy things in life that are not work-related. Simply to achieve a hobby. Self-feeds me up Siamese cats. It is definitely not rich, maybe you go around, if you're lucky. But the happiness of seeing new life come into the world and to hopefully get to follow them further in life when the new owner gives them his love, it is extremely satisfying. Just as fun, but in a completely different way to make a successful party for a larger closed group and see the guests amazed and happy faces, then you also satisfied.
Wow what a long way it was, but it involved:)
One thing that is fun to you, Mattias, is that you write so unabashedly for confirmation. We want everyone to have it, and some (probably many in our industry) more than others, but often there is nothing we posted. We talk about our desire to "develop" and "learn new things", and sure enough, but ultimately we hunt for confirmation. People to say that we are good, skilled, we have succeeded. So I think it's great that you say that it is, that certain things will give you confirmation. I'll also be better able to say it straight out.
And Anna, I think it's pretty good to not be 100 per cent in one place, without having some different topics. Especially in the case of professional / private. I'll work on it, to be better at another track :-)
Quite seriously. When I thought you could not be wiser to go and pinch with new wisdom. I really like how you think and have thought and pondered on it for a while now. I think that I am also fairly project-driven, the difference is that I always, always, have been thinking how great everything is going to be "after it and it has been made / occurred" instead of trying to live in the present. Instead of enjoying the translation as I am now doing (not just that it's a very funny book to translate and it's something I always wanted to do and have risked a lot to get here) so I will just how fun the fall will be just me gets finished with this.
A little wishy-washy, it was, but it's late. I've at least thought to and I thank them for.
Anna: Yes, I can probably also often a hundred percent in things, but for very short periods. That's why I depend on to have short-term projects. Will the long-term projects so there will always something else that grab the attention. And I also want the possibility of having fairly short notice to throw myself into new and exciting things.
However, I have no major long-term goal. Certainly there are things I dream about, but there are so many things and it does not so huge role exactly which of those things come true. I think that I contact me to invest too much time in one big long-term goal, because I suspect that the chance is so small that I achieved it. And the possibility of great confirmation by a single big deal do not outweigh the greater the chances of confirmation by a number of little things. I'd rather be big in a small world, albeit small in size.
My way of working makes enough that I will never be truly great in any field, but it makes me feel very good during the whole way and not worry about direct adversity. It suits me quite easily.
Pia: Yes, that's no denying. It's the confirmation we were looking for, to a greater or lesser degree depending on who we are as people. But that's probably as you say, it's a bit taboo to seek confirmation. It's like that psychology snack that you care not. However, it is so fundamental human desire to have credit for things you have done well, and not just criticism for the things we have done badly, so that's only good if we mention things by their correct names.
While I see myself the way I sometimes go a little fishing for compliments. I try to watch out for it, but sometimes need confirmation so great that I must announce my environment that I've done something good - and that I have suffered to achieve it with Braig. In this way, enough projects martyr sometimes an accurate description of me.
Helen: I probably also look ahead and think it will be nice to clear a project, especially when it goes into that tough final stage when you really think that the project is complete and you should just do the very last ...
But I rejoice always very much on the project when it is going well. Perhaps it is because most projects I work with are so social - often when I write books, it is in collaboration with other people. For me bokskrivandet a way to socialize.
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